How to Write a Wedding Toast or Speech

So, you’ve been granted the honor of becoming a maid of honor or best man, or maybe you are the sibling or parent of the bride or groom. You know you inevitably will be one of the toast givers but you’re not great at public speaking and don’t even know where to begin. Well, we’ve been there and we know how to help! Whether you are looking to give a memorable, sentimental speech or a short but sweet few words, simply follow these ___ steps and you’ll be crafting an amazing toast that you can be proud of.

First and foremost, we have a few tips for you:

1)    It’s totally OK to have your speech on a notecard, napkin, or piece of paper if it will help you be more comfortable with the whole aspect of public speaking. Don’t feel like you have to have it all memorized.

2)    Keep it concise. Just keeping it real, but not everyone wants to sit there and listen to a 10 minute speech of your past inside jokes. Feel free to throw in a personal anecdote here and there if you must, but avoid telling long, drawn out, and detailed stories – or risk losing just about everyone’s interest. (Of course there are exceptions to this rule if it’s relevant to the couple’s big day!)

3)    Keep it 5 minutes or less, preferably less. Enough said.

4)    Keep it tasteful. Do we need to elaborate on this one? Keep it as PG as possible to appease everyone in attendance. You most certainly do not want your speech to be memorable for how offensive it was.

Now, let’s get down to business.



To start your speech, you’ll need a little opener. This can be a quick introduction of who you are and how you know the bride or groom or both.


Now would be a good time to throw in a little story or fun fact about the couple. Again, don’t get into a barrage of inside jokes, but a cute or quirky story about your friendship can be perfectly placed in this part of the speech.


Find the common theme in the story tidbit you just shared. This can 9 times out of 10 but the theme of what else but LOVE. Here’s an example:

If you shared a story about how you witnessed the couple partake in a long distance relationship for years, you can tie it back to how true love can outlast any trials and tribulations that life throws at you. (Doesn’t need to be this corny, just giving an example!)



If you’re a jokester, now is the appropriate time to throw in a joke or a jab. Always remember to keep it clean.


Wrap it up. A quote or a quick “thank you” at the end of the speech is a tasteful and summarizing way to end your portion of the speech, but of course, this is a champagne toast (most times) after all, so call for everyone to raise their glasses and toast to the couple.

Now, be confident, and go give that toast!